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Back to Basics

I’ve been privileged enough to have had several interesting conversations in the past few days. Strangely, they all seemed to have common threads dealing with acceptance and happiness. I ended up with a couple of questions that feel very relevant.
1) Am I accepting of my place in the present moment? and 2) Am I happy or not?
The nuances in the answers to those questions CAN be vast…but for a second I put all of that aside and gave myself the old elementary-style quiz.

happy or not

Life is undeniably more complicated than this. I’m as guilty as anyone of getting wrapped up in the nuances, the expectations, and the anxieties. I know too well the feelings of confusion, frustration, and muddled sense of self that sneaks in even while sprinting down the “path to success”. The simplicity of those questions and boiling it down to the basics helped push aside all of the “should, could, musts” that come along with this existence and helped me tap into the most primary feelings and motivations. In asking myself these questions and allowing myself to sit with the answer without analysis or expectation, things became just a little bit clearer in the moment.

Isn’t that what most of us strive for anyway? A little slice of clarity and simplicity one moment at a time?

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When the going gets tough…what can you do?

We’ve all experienced it. It’s that moment after the adrenaline of beginning your internship has worn off, the novelty of your coworkers and fellow interns is becoming rote, and your readings and papers for school are creeping up fast and furiously. Some of you may also hold a part-time or full-time job while juggling school and the internship. Your rose-colored glasses get darker and suddenly, you can’t remember the last time you smiled, laughed or ate something. Welcome to the Dark Days.

I only mildly exaggerate but there will come a point in time when things feel completely overwhelming. I wish there were a salve to rid us all of these days but this post exists to remind you that a) it’s normal and b) make time for self-care.

If you’re in the middle of it now, you may be rolling your eyes and thinking, what does she know? Trust me, I know! I was a full-time professional and student with a caseload of clients that demanded an immense amount of time and energy…I know what it feels like to not have the time to breathe. I also know that when you are experiencing exhaustion and the first signs of burnout, not only are you not doing any good for yourself but your work in the field may also suffer. I can’t emphasize enough the importance of self-care. It’s not just a concept in your textbook; it’s an important aspect of your development as a professional.

Self-care doesn’t always mean a two week stay at a beach resort with a Bahama-Mama at your side (though it sounds great!). It could mean taking 30 minutes in your day to do something for you. Stretch, journal, watch an episode of a funny show. Engage in anything that helps you reconnect to you and your interests outside of the counseling realm. (For more ideas, see this post featuring Shawn Achor)

Lastly, for those of us based in NY and surrounding states, Sandy has disrupted many of our lives. There are a number of resources available to help you and your clients address stress and trauma related to the storm.


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Bloggers for GOOD

Like a kid in a candy store, I’m overwhelmed and delighted by the innovative ideas of others to invoke change, provoke questions, and challenge what it means to be an active member of society.  Bloggers for GOOD Challenge is bringing out some of the best in the community.  Below are the specifics posted by GOOD:

Blogs are entertaining and influential, and they’re radically changing the way we all share and receive information. Whether your blog is about fashion, football, or food, we think it has the potential to catalyze social impact. Perhaps you are profiling a nonprofit you love and inspiring your readers to get involved, or documenting your adventures in sustainable living and encouraging readers to check out a local environmental organization, or reviewing new books and want to support a literacy program. Whatever your area of interest may be, we have $1,000 for a cause that your work supports as well as a $500 prize for your GOOD work. We’ll also interview you and feature your blog on GOOD.

I have submitted and you can vote for me here:  http://bloggers.maker.good.is/projects/thePathNY

The prize is wonderful but getting exposed to what folks are up to is even better.  Check out all of the submissions on Bloggers for Good.

Happy reading!


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Give and Receive

This is swell!!

Not only is it cool (and rare) to get an award but that it comes from the creative, talented, courageous bloggess at anxietyadventures is even better.  Hats off to you and Gnome.

I’m delighted that the guidelines for acceptance include nominating slightly more than a handful of great blogs.

I’ve had the wonderful fortune of reading the following:

thepensiveporcupine
Tamara Suttle – all things private practice
bucket list publications
stephanieannadams
honeynhero
chinos & chopsticks
the neophyte counselor

Keep posting, keep reading.